Margot Magowan is a writer and commentator. Her articles on politics and culture have been in Salon, Glamour, the San Jose Mercury News, and numerous other newspapers and online sites. She has appeared on “Good Morning America,” CNN, Fox News, and other TV and radio programs. For many years, Margot worked as talk radio producer creating top-rated programs. In 1998, Margot co-founded the Woodhull Institute an organization that trains young women to be leaders and change agents. Margot’s short story “Light Me Up” is featured in the anthology Sugar In My Bowl (Ecco 2011) and she is currently writing a Middle Grade novel about the fairyworld. Margot lives with her husband and their three daughters in San Francisco.
About Reel Girl:
Reel Girl was founded in December 2009. Reel Girl posts have also been featured on, written about, or linked to major sites around the web including The Week (best opinion), Jezebel, HuffPostLive, Shakesville, feministing.com, Blogher (Spotlight Blogger), Forbes.com, Fox News, Wall Street Journal, CNN.com, New York Times, Adweek, Ms., Bitch (best posts of the internet), SFGate, Harvard Political Review, Le Figaro, Christian Science Monitor, New York Post, Feminist Current, Washington Post, Common Sense Media, and many more.
Update! I realized the pic above of all 3 kids together (sadly rare in photos) is pretty old. Here’s a more recent one, kids ages 5, 8, and 11 and my husband, summer 2014:
More about Reel Girl:
Reel Girl’s mission is to imagine gender equality in the fantasy world.
Reel Girl’s banner was created by the artist Cynthia Rodgers AKA Theamat (who did the Wonder Woman pic “If I don’t get pants, nobody gets pants“) Reel Girl’s face is based on these pics of my three daughters.
Theamat used Lucy’s intense eyes,
Alice’s speck of a smile,
and Rose’s wild curls.
More about Reel Girl:
“A truer nomination for our species than Homo sapiens might be Homo narrans.” -Henning Mankell
We’re a storytelling species. The stories that we tell make us who we are. If you ever doubt the power of narratives to shape our lives, beliefs, and values, take a look at one of the most popular historical novels of all time, the Bible, and how it has influenced us. Fiction creates reality and reality creates fiction in an endless loop.
I have three daughters, and I started Reel Girl because, as I read to my kids and saw movies and watched TV and played with toys, I became aware of how heroic female characters are left out of so many narratives. When females are allowed in, they’re often stereotyped. The lack of visible, heroic females in the real and imaginary world sells kids short, affecting who they are and who they will become. I think it’s horrible that the so called imaginary world is so sexist and limited.
Most of the time, I don’t think there’s a conscious sexist conspiracy going on. I just think that for thousands of years women have been living in stories written by men. That’s just warped. I believe that women and girls have got to be the ones to tell our own stories. No one else can do it for us. I’d like women to be writing more, creating more art, making more movies, TV shows, games, and toys for imaginary play. I’d like more women to get much higher up in the power structure so that their stories can get out to influence many more people than they currently are.
I’d like to see these stats change radically:
Only 16% of protagonists in film are female.
Between 1937 and 2005 there were only 13 female protagonists in animated movies.
The female characters in G rated movies are just as likely to wear revealing clothing as in R rated movies.
Women make up 8% of all writers of major motion pictures.
Women are 17% of all executive producers
Women are 7% of film directors
Women are 2% of all cinematographers
Women and girls are the subject of less than 20% of news stories.
Women make up 14% of all guest appearances on the influential Sunday television talk shows; among repeat guests, only 7% are women.
Only 15% of the authors on the The New York Times best seller list for nonfiction are women.
Only about 20% of op-eds in America’s newspapers are by women.
Women hold only 15.2% of seats on the boards of Fortune 500 companies.
Only 7.5% of the major earners at those Fortune 500 companies are female.
Only 3% of advertising’s creative directors are women.
Women are just 19% of partners in law firms.
Women represent 17% of the United States Congress.
There are currently only six female governors.
Throughout our history only four women have held the office of Supreme Court Justice.
There has never been a female President of the United States.
One more reason I started Reel Girl– our movie rating system, and the values associated with that rating system, is totally messed up. So many G movies perpetuate the absolute worst kinds of gender stereotypes, yet they are supposedly “for kids.” In my opinion, this kind of repetitive imagery is way more dangerous for children than hearing the word “shit.”
So Reel Girl’s rating system is S for stereotype and H for heroine, 1- 3 possible.
If you have recommendations for Reel Girl for books, movies, TV, or products that promote strong girls and gender equality, I want to hear about them! Please go to Reader Recs in categories and leave your comments there. I will add them to Reel Girl’s to read and watch and play with list. If you are looking for Reel Girl’s recommendations go to the following categories: Reel Girl Recommends, Most Heroines (formerly GGG) and Cool and Radical Girls.
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“Are there imaginary worlds where sexism doesn’t exist? ”
I just read Astral Fall and the answer is yes! I loved it and thought you should know
I have a show I recommend for you (and maybe your older daughters). It’s called Mercy Street, and is on PBS. It follows the lives of two nurses on opposing sides of the civil war (Emma, a rich southern loyalist who helps care for the wounded Confederates and Mary, a young widow who has a talent for nursing, and a deep loyalty to the North.) Then, there is the lives of the blacks in the small Virginian town that the story is set in. That plot follows the relationship between a black man who is a medical genius, and a black women who is being forcibly raped by her captor. It’s bloody, dark and definitely not for children, but I hope you at least give it a shot.
Just wanted to tell you how sorry I am for all the horrible comments you received about The Minions movie review. You are so right when you said that the comments illustrate the gender problem. Amazing the names they called you – the most blatant illustration of sexist and objectificatuon of women in our “culture.”
I don’t agree with your opinion but respect you for posting it. Takes a lot of courage to do that. It’s a shame that people can post horrible things and don’t have the guts to post their real names. Total cowards!!
I’m fowarding you a post I wrote on my old wordpress blog, which is now down.
Take a lesson from Majei
By Nikki Roseworth
I sometimes wonder if we couldn’t just be like parakeets. They have no gender bias, they are equal, in their little bird lives. They aren’t female dominate, as many say. They aren’t male dominate. It all depends on age and the birds relations to her flock. I know this because I am a proud owner of three well-trained parakeets, Majei, Chrispen and Anders. Chrispen and Anders are male, while Majei is female. Majei, being the oldest I own, is domiant.
I don’t understand why women are shunted into stereotypical roles time and time again.
Why can’t we just care about hanging out with friends and having fun? Not the color of your feathers or gender. I know it sounds strange, but it’s just a thought.
Comments on “‘Minions’ most sexist kids’ movie of the year, rated Triple S for gender stereotyping” are disabled, but I just wanted to quickly thank you for writing such a thought-provoking and eye-opening article. I’m so sorry others didn’t see it that way, but I hope you won’t let those idiots discourage you. Keep on with your brilliant self.
Thank you again,
I have a movie I recomend. It is called Song of the Sea. It is about the last seal-girl and how she must save all the sprits that were turned to stone by the evil owl witch. It is a beautiful mivie, drawn by hand and I highly recomend it.
Song of the Sea is wondrous! My 10-yr-old daughter & I have watched it again and again – she also loves Secret of Kells, another lustrous animated film by the same Irish team (whose names escape me at the moment).
I have been reading your blog for a while now and it has made me much more aware of representation issues.
I starting doing some tutoring recently and I was confused but delighted to see how much diversity in gender, ethnicity, appearance, age, appearance, and more there is in school textbooks. It is phenomenal to see how much of a concerted effort has been put in to welcome all sorts of readers. Construction workers are written with ‘she’ pronouns equally with ‘he’ and boys are just as likely to be baking in math questions as girls. Names are really diverse, with Megan’s and Sarah’s interspersed with Teng’s and Priya’s.
Doing some research, I was only able to find one article that addressed this issue (“Aiming for Diversity, Textbooks Overshoot” in the Wall Street Journal). But it seems to me that if educational materials see the need for fair representation, why doesn’t the media? If the people responsible for teaching our children have decided that it is important to show kids of all kinds, why haven’t authors, artists, animators, and directors? Might be an interesting topic for you to explore.
I had to chime in, as I’m viewing a segment right now on television (Saturday am, May 9th).
I’m sorry, but if I had more time to put together some thoughts I’d do so, but suffice it to say that you’re too “educated”(?) for your own good. While I’m sure you have what most would consider high morals, you’re missing the mark by a country mile & your summation is a feeble attempt to win some over to your perverted conclusions.
I applaud your work in drawing attention to limiting stereotypes and your work to empower children to adopt more realistic, less limiting beliefs as they grow. That said, I am deeply concerned about the effect that the prevailing one-sided messages have on both girls and boys – especially boys. There has been a great deal of finger-pointing, and out and out man bashing in the overall discourse, and while I believe the discussion needs to happen, it does little good to simply point out statistics without also acknowledging the flip-side of the equation. It is simply incorrect to state that only women are oppressed by society. Their oppression is certainly different from women’s, but if you are positioning yourself to be a spokesperson for addressing oppression, it does no good to lift up only that which serves to empower girls and women. Wouldn’t it be more useful to address oppression on both sides, and seek to find solutions that benefit everyone? Here are some hard facts – examples of what I mean. They aren’t popular, and they certainly aren’t talked about, but here they are nonetheless:
Statistically, men work longer hours and accept riskier jobs, both of which contribute in some measure to higher salaries (this is NOT to justify unequal pay for equal work, but rather to say, higher salaries are not simply gender-based.) Society has to pay more for dangerous jobs, and those are overwhelmingly accepted by men. Historically, society has discouraged women from taking risky jobs because they see men as more expendable.
Historically, men occupy the lion’s share of powerful positions, it’s true. BUT – historically, men also occupy a disproportionate number of the bottom-rung positions. They also 90% of the prison cells – not 50%. Law enforcement has a strong bias against men – they get longer prison sentences than women for the same crimes, and are convicted more often for crimes that women frequently escape.
More than two-thirds of the nation’s homeless are men – not 50%.
In the Iraq war, 98% of deaths in battle were men. Only 2% are women – not 50%. Most of the women’s assignments are far removed from the front lines.
I could go on, but the point is clear. If we desire TRUE equanimity and GENUINE empowerment of all, we need to examine ALL of our stereotypes and assumptions. It is disingenuous to blame men for exploiting women when in fact women exploit each other, just as men exploit other men. (A WOMAN – not a man – is managing editor of Sports Illustrated Swimsuit mag.) Women also exploit men in the workplace but in ways that are often vague but no less real – and are reasonably protected by law. Sadly, sexual harassment occurs between the sexes freely and in both directions, but it is far easier by law to accuse men of harassment than women because of our historical social bias. It is all unsavory, unnecessary, and disempowering to everyone. Select blaming of men without addressing these obvious inequities only makes the problem worse while creating new barriers to overcome.
It seems to me that the best way to address this issue is to first draw the line at lifting up accusing statistics that tell only half the story and begin instead to address the deeper issues that affect us all – not just girls and women. We need not empower girls and women by disempowering boys and men. There is a lot of work to be done BY all FOR all.
I hope you will keep this in mind. Certainly your work matters a great deal – and I understand deeply. I have a daughter. But I also have a son. My hope for them both is that they can help live, work, and contribute in a world that welcomes them both for their strengths, their skills, and their hearts – equally.
This is meant as a reply but it won’t show up:
I have never watched fifty but yes, I have heard classmates, teachers and people talking about it. yes I do snoop. It’s a hoby of mine… Spying.
But I have crazy, weird and insane a question. Can we do a series of blogs focussing on ten major problems (tropes? clichés?) that impact children? I will provide a bit of info for all of the [Tropes? Clichès?].
The ten major things I think of are these:
Gender Stereotypes (How stereotypes work to change and undermine what you have raised your child to believe)
Mature Themes In Popular Music (Did he say what I heard? Music isn’t censored enought and when it is, it is sloppy and obvious what profane word was uttered)
Body Image (Young girls all over the world want to look like starving models, once in five girls think they are fat, when they are perfect).
The Token Minority (Remeber that feisty chick? The gay man? That black dude? It’s when a piece of media contains one token black, female etc. character in a normally white, straight, male cast.)
Shrugging Off Sexism (that moment when someone says “oh sexism isn’t around anymore.” It is, and awful at that.
Blantly Sexist New Movie Releases (rankings for the sexist of the sexist)
Common Sense Media Problems (No sexism bar? Someone should make a petition!)
Role Models Gone To Hell (*cough* Miley *cough* Cyrus
Playground Rules (stereotypes found at school and taught)
Fake Fems (Things people try and do to make you want to believe a piece of media is Feminsit).
Like a half guest blog, half reel girl post. A debate of sorts. Thanks!
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My name is Max, I’m the director of the feature film Beast- a darker take on “Beauty and the Beast” shot entirely in Iceland. I invite you to watch the trailer in the hopes that it’s a good fit for a post:
Please let me know if I can provide any more information or media. Thank you for your consideration!
All my best,
I’m intrigued by your trailer. I have a lot of issues with Beauty and the Beast, summed up by the girl who wants to travel the world ends up with the abusive guy on the outskirts of her town. I love how Bell is shot in your trailer as heroic (why is she ‘bell’ and not ‘belle’ I was wondering if their was significance in her name meaning something that rings instead of beauty?) I like her background story, that she was molested by her father who killed her mother. Still, I’m not sure how you can make his story into something I can get behind if she ends up with the beast. Maybe you can– he seems to be beast more in action than his looks, which is important b/c the beast metaphor ends up applying to real life where “beautiful” young women are paired with men who are far less “attractive” but have money/ power etc. Also, In your voice over you say the beast is a part of her and I like that metaphor but then why not a female beast? I guess I’m wondering how the story can be empowering as long as the gender roles– the girl and the beast– remain how they are. I’d love to follow your film and see what I think of the whole thing. I’ll share it on my FB page and maybe do a post if you can respond to these questions though I don’t know if that’s giving too much away. Thank you for sharing your work.
What in the nam of God are we teaching children?
I have come across terrible sexism in everyday media, that isn’t just a mistake or a subject. I.e: boys must like blue, baseball, superheroes and violence. Girls HAVE to be mini sex slaves from the day they start kindergarten. Really! I remember a girl in my class (she was five at the time) wearing stripper heels to school…. Wait what?
Then much more recently we had a play on greatest Americans ever. Some of the male characters are still alive today. So here’s the big picture: 30 roles. 29 are male,
1 is female. that one character is Betsy Ross, a deeply stereotyped women who was famous for SEWING a flag. No word of Anita Sarkeesian.
We teach girls being a stripper or porn star is a acceptable field, whereas with men we laugh and think, “if he’s in a BDSM relationship he is probably the top.”
Wtf? Don’t get me wrong, this is a stupid example. Not once has anyone walked up to me and said “you’ll be a good sex worker when you grow up”. But in our media we REFREOCNE IT!!! That is wrong.
Have you ever thought about if men posed like women in ads. You know, scantily-clad, come hither smiles, so much makeup you think they are a alien…. Get the picture?
Then, Fifty Shades Of Grey……. Melissa from PPBB says “It will affect your kids”. I am a kid, it affects me and disgusts me so much….. UGH!
Ana for one, is weak and you want her to get frikin run over by a bus the whole time. Second the portray of BD makes me (personally) think of rape.
When we say these things most people scream “hell no!”…. Or they wash your mouth out with soup and scream “________” (word you said there) <——
It makes me feel like this.
Art of feelings with Emojis
Omg…. Not soup! Soap!
And the emoji never showed…. Crap! Ruined post!
And yes, this post may be vulgar and sexual, it’s how I feel…. Personally!
I remember that about Betsy Ross too! She was the only female and she sewed! UGH Can you write an op-ed for your paper or school paper or talk about the gender imbalance with your teachers or form a group of kids at school or involve parents? I’d love you to keep posting on your attempts/ successes. I did a post on a highschool in berkeley that organized after the teachers instructed girls to dress properly to avoid rape without instructing boys not to rape.
OK, I’m a mom of an 11 year old and I’m just going to say it. I don’t think you should be watching FIfty Shades of Gray. It is upsetting and awful and I hope you look for images/ narratives of complex/ strong female protagonists. The images you see when you are young really stick in your brain.
I haven’t seen it and I NEVER want to. I have heard people taking about it and I read PPBB. Also I heard my parents. Evil face. I hear all (except for names) Also…. I have been deeply disturbed lately from lyrics in music. I have put together a list of 5 songs to not let your children hear (due to stereotypicl misogynist lyrics.) I strongly believe in profane lyrics, I think profanity adds to music. So I has some hand picked alts for the list. With further ado, let’s jump right into the list.
Nikki’s Doom List of Inapropro Music:
1. I Don’t F*ck With You (Big Sean)
This song strangely reals of dating violence. Why are you so mad your “bitch” didn’t want to “kiss your ass” UGH! It makes me puke.
“You little stupid ass birch”
Alt: Fly (Nicki Minaj, one use of motherf*cking but it’s great, has lyrics like “I am not a word, I am not a line, I am not a girl that can ever be defined”)
2. Love Me Harder (Adraina Grade feat. The Weekend)
Ughhh. A women begged begging for sex….. Common crap. Say no more!
“When I get you moaning i now it’s real”
What’s real is me projectile vomiting!
Alt: World Alone (Lorde, this song is about being alone on a drive with your loved one, yet not in a overly sexual way. Great lyrics includ “Raise your glass cause I’m not done saying it, people get loose, cut away with it. Let em talk, cause we’re dancing in this world alone, we’re alone”)
Talk Dirty (Jason Derolo feat. 2 Chainz)
No more… It’s AWFUCLE!
That wasn’t a misspelling its f*cking awful.
Yay a song about oral sex, cheating and how disposable girls can be.
“We can ménage a three o”
Really when you have a sex ed class. The kids will be like “wait… I thought it would be three people”
Alt: Figure Eight (Ellie Gouding) great song, beautiful about dying Young and your lover leaving your grave. It’s very very sad. “Place a kiss on my cheekbone and you vanish, me unburied in the snow”
4. She Knows (Neyo feat. Juicy J)
It’s about how a girl knows all about how everyone’s looking at her as she twerks, while Neyo is plotting to drug her and rape her. Really?
“Her legs in the air she can walk on the ceiling.” Makes me f*cking mad!
5. I Don’t Mind Usher (feat. Juicy J)
The rapper so nice, he’s one here twice. Be glad I stopped at two. You may argue that it’s empowering in some weird, ironic way. (Anita Sarkeesian face). It’s about how usher doesn’t mind his girl is a stripper, the song then becomes overly sexual, including threesome references, oral sex references, sexual violence, sexual role playing and anything sexual… Basically.
“Girl I don’t mind
If you dance on a pole
That don’t make you a ho
I don’t mind
If you work til three
Long as your leaving with me
get that money money money,
Make your money money money
I know how it is, go handle your biz
Make that money money money”
Alt: Win Again (Nicki Mianj) This song has allot of profanity, but it is amazingly fun and enpowering.
“I win again”.
That’s my list of doom and Crapz!
Nikki lives with her parents and dog Charlie in a small town in rural Oregon. Her pastimes includ gaming, blogging, skiing, rock climbing and achery. She is a two time school champion of Battle of the Books. (Useless fact!)
P.S what does the z in lolz stand for? Laughing out loud… Zebras?
I know I have a lame name, but I made dis account so I can comment on ur amazing posts. I have a issue I would like you to address…. Sexism in gaming! You see, too many games are becoming about saving princess preach or having sex with a mildess, sexed up female. There is game called Dead or alive. It’s about buying gifts for women in bikinis.
PLZ take my idea.
~Nikki Roseworth, 11 years old.
Totally agree about video games!!! Are you familiar w Anita Sarkeesian? She has a site called Feminis Frequency and she’s made excellent videos about sexism and gaming.
Yes, I love her work, but I can’t believe that someone threatend to kill her… Just cause she stood up for gender equality in video games!
I also need some help… I want to start a webpage like Reel Girl.
But idk how to get it read.
I am a huge fan of Feminist Frequency! But did you know Melissa Wardy quoted one of ur articles? I know u really enjoy her blog, same here. It’s a different outlook then you have, (liking Frozen, Barbies etc.). It’s posted under sexism. On the second page.
(If u already know… Lol)
We’re looking to release multi-million dollar film directed, produced, and starred-in by women. We’re hoping to help influence a greater amount of gender equality in the Film industry. Please reach out to the email offered; we would love to talk about your impressions.
We’re the creators of a new comedy web series set in the world of LARP-ing, and also huge fans of your site! As fellow nerds, we wanted to invite you to check out our show (click here). And here is the main site: http://ingametheseries.com/
Here’s a bit more about the show: Six nerds play out the drama of their real lives through the fantasy of live action role playing – LARP. A meek student can be a slick assassin; the slacker geek gets to be a master wizard. In the real world, people write them off as losers, but at the LARP, everyone’s a hero.
“In Game” is a show about LARP and nerds, by nerds who LARP, and who love nerd culture. This is finally a show about LARP that laughs WITH nerds, not at us. Our show explore how gaming helps us the problems we face in real life, and brings folks together. It moves between the gamers’ real world and the fantasy city of New Amsterdam, a place where the costumes are a cosplayer’s dream (seriously, check them out) and everyone is super hot (again, seriously, check them out). It’s also funny as hell, starring Nickelodeon’s Aaron Eisenberg, OITNB’s Keisha Zollar, and more.
“In Game” also celebrates how nerds come from all walks of life: rich, poor, black, white, Asian, straight, gay. When we say we’re diverse, we don’t mean we cast a token sassy black girl in a wall of white: we mean our cast and creative team is a real mix. Six out of our cast of 13 are nonwhite, and 8 of them are gay or bisexual. Our producers are 3/4 women, 2/4 African-American, and 1/4 LGBT. 2 out of 3 writers are women. But don’t worry, we also have one straight male WASP on the team (our fab DP), so we definitely didn’t leave anyone out! We wanted to watch something that showed nerds the way we really are, and we had trouble finding it, so we built it ourselves. We know this is as important to you as it is to us, so we’d really appreciate you taking a moment to check out the series.
We’d love to hear your thoughts on the show, and if you like it, we would really appreciate it if you would consider letting folks know what those thoughts are! (If you don’t like it, feel free to keep that to yourself).
Hope to hear from you. Thanks very much!
All the best,
Team In Game
Keisha, Mark, and Zoe
Hello, This likely isn’t the right place to ask this, but I didn’t know where else to do so… I watched “Mud” last night and it was a good coming-of-age story, not unlike those sotires from the 80’s (Stand by me, etc…) Then I got to thinking, are there any coming-of age stories that have a female protagonist that doesn’t “Come-of-age” because of a boy? You know just life circumstances that lead to a realization that the world is a very different place than the girl had always thought it was? I know Spirited Away and Kiki’s Delivery Service do this, but a live action recommendation would be great.
I just stumbled upon the article you wrote on My Little Pony for SFGate in 2010. I don’t know if you remember it. You criticized it for playing into gender stereotypes. The series that came out since you wrote it isn’t so gender stereotypical and is actually really good. I was wondering if your opinion on MLP has changed in the last 4 years.
Elizabeth Sweet referred me to your site. My daughter and I are researching footwear over time. One of the issues we have encountered is the question of gender and shoes. I am so happy to see that you have questioned manufacturers such as Stride Rite for genderizing footwear. They are only interested in the bottom line and care little about the consequences of children being bullied who might wear the “wrong” shoes for their gender. One of my daughters actually went to buy shoes in the boys’ department because she said they were better made and lasted longer than the girls’ shoes at the time.
Also, we came across the term “sissy shoes” many times. Actually, we believe the term sissy is offensive to females because it implies they are inferior to males. In the early 1900s children wore the same style footwear without anyone caring. It is the manufacturers who want to keep the genders separate to maximize their profits by having two lines of merchandise based on gender rather than one. Stride rite can talk all they want about boys being more active and girls pretty, but the real issue is profit.
I would be happy to exchange ideas, pictures, etc. if you are interested. I can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org
Sorry, my links seem to be broken. Here they go again:
I have been playing this game with my son the last couple of weeks and I have to say that I have been very impressed by it. The graphics and scenery are absolutely stunning, one of the most amazing things I have ever seen.
I though I will share it here as it includes a female protagonist and the animation and difficulty of the game seems adequate for children of both genres. I have certainly enjoyed it very much, I hope it some other people may find it interesting too.
Child of Light announce trailer:
Child of Light feature trailer:
I’m not really sure the precise reason why I feel the need to write this, but I hope it is useful in some way. I’m new to your website, and have been enjoying reading your perspective on each topic.
The purpose of writing this comment is that it is first and foremost a confession, secondly an apology, and third a perspective that I don’t often hear out there. I’m a male, and as an adult I have been fighting sexism where I see it. The key word there is “see”. This is important to keep in mind, because I want it to be understood that my transgressions have not been purposeful, but rather simply terrible failure. I speak up when I hear kids misrepresenting gender, when men habitually perceive women in degrading ways, and when women themselves refuse to see the unfairness of what we are saturated in (“It’s uncomfortable, but I don’t wear it because society told me to, I wear it because he likes me to and I love him”). But it’s not enough, because I am corrected constantly in my ignorance by wise words. And, I KNOW that it wasn’t enough when I was growing up.
My mother, ridiculously, had to teach me the lesson that boys weren’t better than girls because it was “common knowledge” in the second grade South. Despite having a strong mother and a strong sister raising me, despite my near-obsessive need to question everything around me, despite my tendency toward non-masculine traits and being ostracized for it, and despite all my conscious efforts in my life, I have so many times failed to see my mistreatment of women.
When I was young, I remember watching a movie and seeing the male protagonist playfully battling what you refer to as the “minority feisty”, and thinking to myself, ‘she won. She can’t do that. She can be skilled, but not as skilled as the main guy, that wouldn’t make sense’.
I never noticed that Smurfette was the only girl in the Smurfs, and worse, that she was a moron, until I had daughters for which I demanded valuable role models, and finally became upset about the fact that they basically had no one to model themselves after on this particular show but a bimbo.
Even as a young adult, I thought that it’s obvious that women should be equal, but we’ve come so far, and isn’t feminism just an angry hissy fit that things aren’t going women’s way?
I used to think I was superior to other guys because I extended my idea of female beauty to non-standard appearance. It had never occurred to me that I was still placing beauty as a proportionality constant to the value of a woman.
I have many times in my life felt guilt for being overly responsive to female sexuality, and I’m not even sure any more how much of it is physiological and how much of it is a product of my failure to discontinue objectifying women.
Probably my biggest wake-up call was when my fabulous girlfriend took me to see a performance of the Vagina Monologues. I cried and cried afterward at all the heinous oblivion my fellow men and I have lived in for so long.
To all women everywhere, I am sorry that I have lived in ignorance. I am so ashamed that I have been a part of this huge plop of lie that we’re fed our entire lives, and I hope to make better progress in the future to peel off the layers that I have allowed to remain for so long.
I would also like to return this comment to its beginning, and remind any reader that all of this failure and ignorance exists in someone who is trying to fight it, and who had the benefit of guidance. Imagine how much further we have to go considering the mass of people who are without that advantage.
Margot, thanks for your website, and thanks for helping us to see more things.
Hello! I am wondering if you wouldn’t mind letting me list your website under my “Recommended Sites” list on my blog: SenseAndResponsibility.com
I follow you on FB and always look forward to your insights!
Hi, I know this film doesn’t look children-friendly, but is there any chance you may share your opinion on this movie when it gets released?
What is the film?
It look good! But she also looks like a Minority Feisty, I may have seen one other woman in the trailers and lots and lots of men.
That’s why I wanted to hear other people’s opinion. There are no many other women in the trailer, however, she is clearly the protagonist and she even gets her name in the title of the movie.
This episode, very simply, is about stereotypes in society and how “My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic” and its fans are challenging those stereotypes – and how they in turn face challenges as a result.
Have just blown an hour of ‘work time’ happily reading your posts and taking you on book recommendations. It seems fair to give you one back! Have you ever come across The Wall of Night series by Helen Lowe? You might like it – it goes a bit deeper than your average fantasy, and the gender balance is well, balanced! I also think it might score pretty highly in your search for a fantasy world where women and men are accepted as skilled in area because of their abilities, rather than their gender.
Sorry for all the typos! I’m sure you can fill in the gaps 😉
I haven’t heard of this book. It sounds great! Thanks for the rec.
You must be psyched!
Okay, initially I didn’t really want to post this, since I stopped reading your blog and tried explaining before but to no avail, but I really think your femmephobia is going too far (what with the whole “Polly Prostitute” thing). Sorry, this is gonna be a long argumentative essay, but please hear me out because it is really, really important.
First off, your target of criticism is wrong. You should be pointing out the gender stereotyping (which is ludicrous enough) but not the freaking pieces of plastic. Claiming to not be slut-shaming doesn’t on the basis of well-intentioned criticism doesn’t negate the fact that your are, ostensibly, slut-shaming. You, as a white, middle-class woman, have the privilege to woefully misunderstand a sex worker’s job, or even shame women who wear revealing clothing. It really is juvenile to insult a piece of plastic. You didn’t have to resort to pejoratives to make your point. “Pernicious” is good enough to describe the effects of gender stereotyping, but Polly is just an inanimate object. Objects are just objects; all objects are neutral but the purpose by which they’re meant is the real issue.
The thing about the sex industry is that most people jump at saying how indecent/degrading it is for women, which, to a certain extent, is true, because some sex workers are exploited by the industry against their will (e.g. Sex slavery). And yes, rape, murder, and abuse are commonplace. But as any job, there are definitely people who do it willingly, and they have various reasons to and those who join by their free will are exercising autonomy over their sexuality. But the crucial point is, majority of sex workers are poor and women-of-color. Most of them are undereducated and may have difficulty securing a job or housing, and thus have no choice but to turn to the sex industry. In fact, the women-of-color sex workers often end up in this line of work due to poverty, and the objectification of their bodies which fuels demand for these types of sex workers. To put down sex workers is not merely slut-shaming, it is often classist and racist as well, and continues to dehumanize these women, which is only contributing to the problem.
Another issue is that of women who dress revealingly (which is considered inappropriate by misogynistic standards). If you can, read up on the Madonna/Whore dichotomy. By shamingthese women, often with the preconceived misconceptions that
(a) they were brainwashed by patriarchy to comply with men’s preferences and thus are doing this to please men and
(b) they are promiscuous sluts
(c) they are attention whores
which is just asinine. You can’t just jump to conclusions about strangers solely based on their attire. Besides, many of these women don’t do it for the above mentioned reasons. Much of the time, they just want to express themselves in the clothing they like. Is that all that bad? Simply because they are wearing stereotypical “stripper” clothing doesn’t mean they deserve to be derided as inferior to women who dress conservatively.
Again, by upholding one type of women over another, you are displaying internalized misogyny. This is exactly what patriarchy wants us to do, pitting us against each other. This dichotomy can only result in unhealthy contention between women, without us even noticing it because it’s so deeply ingrained into society. Our worth as human beings is not defined by how we dress, what we do or even the toys girls play with. This internalized misogyny makes women believe that traditionally feminine things are innately inferior to traditionally masculine things, just because they are associated with women, who are considered inferior.
So you may not believe any of this so far, but let me put it in a way where the premise is that everything at first is neutral. Since the beginning of time, every single freaking object in the world is neutral, and you can’t deny that, because “worth” is a abstract, human concept. And then came along humans, who begin applying different purposes and worth to meaningless objects, because that’s just human nature. Of course, human beings probably started out as matriarchal societies just like one of our closest relatives, the bonobos (you can choose to ignore this if you don’t believe in evolution and all). In fact, women in early societies were most likely afforded the same rights as men and even given important jobs (gathering, as opposed to hunting, accounted for 60-80% of the tribe’s diet according to some anthropologists). Rape was almost non-existent, and when it does occur, the rapists are punished severely (just as in Bonobo societies). But after agriculture materialized, men were supposed to work in the fields (possibly due to them being, on average, fitter than women, not that I think this is the right mentality) and women were reduced to their only job – childbearing. Which isn’t exactly inferior though, but somehow humans of that time decided that providing sustenance was more important than procreating is to ensure the survival of the species, and thus, women were relegated to second-class status.
Apparently, that’s when patriarchy started and men claimed everything they liked, calling the stuff “masculine” and therefore superior to anything they consider uselessly “feminine”, which are things women were associated with. That’s when meaningless objects get value attached to them. Now, we can all agree that gender stereotyping is needless and harmless, but don’t demonize anything stereotypically associated with women. Once again, I must reiterate that objects are initially neutral. And gender stereotypes do change overtime, but it’s always when men decide that traditionally “feminine” things are nice and claim it for themselves, or when they decide that “masculine” objects aren’t to their liking anymore. They simply won’t want to share objects with women and call them ungendered, because sexist men do not want to share anything with women, since they don’t want to be associated with the “inferior” sex.
Take the example of bronies, who label themselves the male fans of My Little Pony: Friendship is Magic, and are supported by many feminists for breaking gendered moulds, but in reality they are intensely misogynistic. They chose the label “brony” to distinguish them from the “casual” female fans, because simply being called a My Little Pony fan is insulting to their male pride, as they will be associated with the usual female fans. Bronies have proven themselves disgusting assholes time and time again, drawing porn of ponies, ostracizing female fans of the show, harassing women who just want to enjoy the show, claiming themselves superior, loyal supporters of Faust, as opposed to the “casual” female fans…the list goes on. And Faust still backs them up, just because they feed her ego by praising her to be a genius all the time. Even after they drew porn of her.
Another thing I must point out about gender stereotypes evolving over time: objects deemed as “good” once and become “bad” once they become “feminine”. Example: High heels were once exclusively male, and considered practical too. Egyptian butchers wore high heels to avoid waddling in the blood of the animals they killed, and high heels were used as riding boots to secure the feet of horse riders in the stirrups, in the Victorian Era, if memory serves me right. But they only started gaining notoriety in modern times as they became fashionable footwear for women and lost their practicality (which still doesn’t mean they are bad in any way by themselves. Usage decides whether an object is “good” or “bad”. Prolonged wearing of heels have detrimental effects on the bone structure of wearers, for example).
Don’t ever demonize anything stereotypically associated with women because that is counterproductive: it won’t achieve gender equality, but will only perpetuate the myth that traditionally “feminine” things are bad. Please stop and reconsider your ideals as a feminist. I sincerely hope this post has made you more aware of internalized misogyny and the like. I know it won’t change your views overnight, but please at least try to be more cognizant of intersectionality and subconscious oppression.
This video adequately explains the phenomenon of femmephobia and gender stereotyping: http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zXKuF2vFeQo
Some of your blog posts can be insightful and educative, but you still have a lot to work on. Personally, I believe your likening of gender stereotyping to systematic racism is really insensitive and ignorant. Yes, racism and sexism, along with other forms of oppression, intrinsically function in the same way, by upholding one group of people over another, then attaching negative value to the oppressed group. However, there are differences in how they function, and trying to liken them is anything but reasonable. For a person who will never fully understand or experience racism, I hope you won’t use the oppression of other races to validate your argument on sexism. Gender stereotypes undermine women’s potential, but “girly” things are not as harmful as the the cultural and physical genocide of people-of-color.
Another thing is that the gender stereotypes you speak of are highly USA-centric and white-centric, since not all of them are universal (although American media has a global distribution and effect) or apply to women-of color. You say girls are stereotyped as weak and in need of saving, thus your dislike for the “damsel in distress” trope, but have you ever seen a black woman as a damsel in distress? Black women have a different set of stereotypes applied to them, which are far more degrading than those applied to white women. They are stereotyped as loud-mouthed, independent, violent, promiscuous, overly sexual, unfeminine, etc, which makes them undesirable for men, and thus, even black men hate them I preference for white women. Because black women are considered undesirable and worthless, nobody ever thinks about rescuing them, in real life or fiction. They are a constant target for abuse and violent crimes that you’ll never see white women experiencing on account of their race. Out of all the Disney Princesses, the women-of-color, namely Jasmine, Mulan, Tiana, and Pocahontas, are characterized as more capable than most of the white princesses and don’t need to be saved as much, but that reinforces the idea that they don’t need men and can stand up for themselves. This is turn, results in the harmful idea that they are not proper women and don’t deserve protection just like white women. This is how women-of-color experience sexism differently with the added factor of race, and this is why you shouldn’t just focus on the stereotypes of white women.
Hope I didn’t write all this in vain again. I’d really appreciate it if you would shift the focus of your blog, which currently is “gender equality for white women”, to “gender equality for all women, regardless of race, sexuality, gender identity, social and economic status, and physical and mental disability”. Because all these are important too. If you think girls (usually white) are not represented enough, then women belonging to marginalized groups such as the above have a much, much harder time finding representation for themselves. Thank you for your patience, if you read it this far. Hope I didn’t ruin your holidays.
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something I wanted to bring to your attention – the lack of shows with female protagonists on Cartoon Network (&i’m sure other networks like it) and the disappearance of shows like Powerpuff Girls and Totally Spies where the characters are predominantly female.
For Cartoon Network specifically, they chose not to relicense Totally Spies! a couple of years ago, but the show itself still exists in its own country of production, France, and is broadcast to other countries too.
Just a glaring example of the kind of stuff you talk about.
Also, do you have a list of TV shows for kids that do have female protagonists/real females in them?
I don’t! It’s a goal to create.
ARGH! I have written about the lack of female protags on PBS. PBS!
Margot, have you seen the promo for this game?
Apparently uses the princess theme without making the princess into a damsel in distress. She goes on her own journey and uses a sword and magic as a weapon. The graphics look adorable. I’m very excited for this game. Hopefully it’s as good as it looks like.
Love it! Thanks for sharing
just watch the leader of the group on Fox news. people like you are what is wrong with this country.. let make pussy out of all young boys and be gender neturel on everything. I see why you are in SAN FAN.. stay there with the rest of the queers and dumb bithes… I will now shop at stride rite for shoes for my two boys..
Try watching some niche anime. Some niche animes, like Claymore and Ghost in the Shell have properly dressed female protagonists who actually stand out. Also, there is a guy by the username Roosterteeth who is currently doing a series titled RWBY, where the main protagonists are female characters.
I love your blog.
I forgot two other non-princess female protagonists, Jane from Return to Neverland and Tinkerbell in the Fairies books and four Tinkerbell movies.
For live action Disney movies, there is one female animal protagonist I know of, Chloe the chihuahua from Beverly Hills Chihuahua.
How would you rate these three characters on your Girlpower scale?
Interestingly, even though the movie Dumbo has many more male than female characters (i.e. all five of the crows are male, the stork and mouse are male, the train is gendered male) and has the main character, who is male, in the title, all the elephants other than Dumbo are female, reflecting on the fact that real life elephants are matriarchal.
I love your blog, so I apologize for writing just to point out an error:
“Between 1937 and 2005 there were only 13 female protagonists in animated movies.”
Just looking from 1992-2004 there were 16 movies with a female (or multiple female) protagonists.
Ferngully, Happily Ever After, Thumbelina, The Swan Princess, Pocahontas, Anastasia, Quest for Camelot, Mulan, The King and I, Final Fantasy:The Spirits Within, Return to Neverland, Lilo and Stitch, The Powerpuff Girls, The Wild ThornBerrys Movie, and Home on the Range,
… of course the number of female protagonists is still far less then male and only 16 in 12 years isn’t great or anything.
Haven’t read this yet, from today, but right up your alley about lego, toys, and gender bias:
thank you, I posted about this.
I saw this and I thought of you. You’ve probably already seen it, but if not…enjoy!
I love your blog, I’d like to show you my movies? Can you send me your postal address?
I’ve been seeing your blog linked by Pigtail Pals a lot, and I want to thank you for what you write. The subtle ways in which girls are taught to be smaller, weaker, and less capable than boys are shocking, it’s not rare for the most resilient of children to fall prey to those messages. I know I spent many, many years hating being a girl, until I realised there was nothing to hate, that the limitations imposed upon me were LIES.
Anyway, I wanted to draw your attention to this little book from my childhood. http://www.alisonlester.net/monsters%20are%20knocking.html
I remember to this very day looking through it and going ‘Huh! Why is the woman a carpenter, and the man a house cleaner?’ It just didn’t seem right to me, when I was young. Even though my parents and family had never ever suggested anything of the sort, I had absorbed this message from society.
The book is made for very young kids, it’s a very short read, but besides being charming, it challenges traditional gender roles in a very subtle, very non-preaching way. The kids open the door- there’s a woman outside, coming to ‘work with her saws’. That’s it.
I wish it wasn’t such a big deal to see stuff like that in a children’s book.
I’m loving your blog. Thanks for the work you do.
I just started following your blog recently, so I’m not sure how you pick what books you read/review/recommend, but I have a series you might be interested in (maybe you’ve heard of it, but I searched your blog and you’ve never posted on it).
It’s the Kiki Strike series – Inside the Shadow City, The Empress’s Tomb, and the third book is slated to come out next year, The Darkness Dwellers.
I was turned on to the books by a review (which, sadly, I can no longer find online) written by a librarian who said she loves the books because she can (and does) recommend them for boys and girls, which stands out in this situation since all the protagonists are girls.
I have no relationship with the author or publishing company, I just think they are great books. I’m a 35year old mother of 2 kids under 4, so they aren’t reading this stuff yet. I read them about two years ago, and I can’t wait for the third one.
Hope you read them and enjoy. I’d love to hear what you think of them.
I really, really enjoyed you blog. I read several articles before I made a decision to subscribe, and I’d have to say that I am thoroughly happy that I did. I think that you are filling a very important, and very neglected niché in the fight against sexism. I’d have to say that I have a greater appreciation of your work after reading because you really take time to dissect the cultural concept of gender, and sexism, and show how they are limiting to us as people. That is the part that I appreciate the most. I will keep myself updated on your writings, and thoughts looking at our culture.
I’d have to share, that I was once quite in the dark about sexism until I started really paying attention. I’d have to say, I was appalled at out pervasive the issue is, and I see sexism everywhere now. I hope and believe that one day it will be a bygone fact of an era in our history, rather than a painful fact of our present reality. Keep doing what you are doing.
send me your mailing address and I will send you some stickers!
Jamie/Skiier and Soccer player
Be A Girl Today.com
I love this site
Great idea, I will give some stickers to my daughter’s doctor’s office. Action, action, action! So much better than stewing…
Hi there Margot
Do you think my project is something you would be interested in getting behind/promoting?
Your time is precious and I appreciate you checking it out x
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What are your thoughts about this link?
Margot – just to let you know, I’ve nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award! 🙂
Thanks so much mskatykins!
No problem, your blog is ballsy and thought provoking and pretty inspirational – hence, you deserve the nomination! 🙂
Great blog! I really enjoy your thoughtful, fact-based responses. As an academic, writer, blogger and mom of three girls, I can relate to your concerns and insightful responses. My older two (twins) are 12, so I am now navigating the tricky waters of teen girl adolescence. I thought you might enjoy this amazing documentary from CBC’s DocZone called SextUp Kids. (http://www.cbc.ca/doczone/episode/sext-up-kids.html)
After watching it, I was chatting with a group of other moms of tween girls, and we were trying to imagine what alternative narratives of healthy teen girl sexuality might exist. What can we show our daughters that isn’t just about the current pop culture options of being hot or being invisible? We racked our brains and couldn’t come up with anything. But i haven’t given up. Thought you might have some ideas.
I will check out this link and your blog. I do not know any narratives about healthy sexuality for teens, but I am not there yet and have not looked. Sad to know you haven’t found anything. Please let me know if you do.
I’ve done a bit of poking around and haven’t found too much, aside from an amazing website/ movement called Spark. There is some great stuff coming out of the LGBT movement, which is wonderful, but it won’t reach most straight tweens, teens. Communities that try to subvert the dominant paradigm (like Goths or the Purity Movement) really just end up reinforcing the same old stereotypes. I’ve written a bit more about this in today’s blog post, with links to Spark: http://www.risk-within-reason.com/2012/03/22/healthy-positive-teen-sexuality-imagine/
Always on the look out for more, in case you come across them.
Thanks – love your site btw.
Hey! I have nominated you for the Versatile Blogger Award. Further details are at: http://threedescriptors.wordpress.com/2012/03/13/the-versatile-blogger/
I hope you accept the award in the spirit that I nominated you. And I love your blog; it has prompted so many discussions in our household. Thanks!
I’m all for gender equality, but don’t you think you’re going a bit too far?
I don’t think girls should be forced to play with barbies and other “girl oriented” toys, BUT if they want to, what’s wrong with that? And what’s so “fucked up” about a toy that teaches/allows children to style hair? Have you ever gone to a salon? Would you chastise your hair dresser for allowing his/her child to play with a toy that emulates what they do at work? Would you have as much of a problem with a boy playing with one as you obviously have if the child is female?
Hi oh my,
there are no free choices to be made because the roles for females are extremely limited
If you have not seen this:
I am a Mechanical Engineer. At some trade shows, companies use scantily-clad women doing weird things to attract people to their booth. Apparently the customers (i.e. Engineers) they are looking for are heterosexual men and homosexual women. It’s absolutely disgusting! It has gotten better over the years (the last show I went to was 100% professional), so I was shocked to see this article.
I love reading your blog. Some of it I don’t “get”, but I whole-heartedly agree with a lot of it. As children, my sister and I wanted to emulate our 2 older brothers, and fortunately, our parents did not encourage/discourage that. I did NOT know what to do with the hair-styling dummy head that one of Mom’s friends gave me. Instead, I was playing with toy soldiers, killing off the “enemy” (Ha! Ha! Probably not a good thing either)
Hi M. Ying,
I had the hair styling dummy head! What a fucked up toy. I hope they don’t make that one anymore. I’ll check out the link. Thanks. It’s bad enough that they use half naked women to market to adults, but kids? I guess all the toys come from the same place. We need more women in power and to liberate imagination.
I wasn’t sure where on your blog to post this, feel free to move this comment. I have been investigating books with positive female role models to read to my daughters and came across this great list:
I thought you might be interested!
Hi, I’ve nominated you for the Kreativ Blogger Award because I love your posts. You can see the details about the award on my blog. Keep up the good work!
Thanks so much Nicola! I’ll check out your blog.
I just wanted to thank you for being here and for sharing your thoughts. It’s such a relief to see that my thoughts/concerns that I struggle to give words to are being voiced here. I look forward to perusing your blog more. Rock on.
Thanks you for your comment. Not wanting to feel alone in the universe (that I KNOW I can’t really be alone in) inspired me to start blogging.
I’ll check these out.
Happy Sunday! Love love love your blog and appreciate your writing – you’ve inspired me to start my own with a friend http://ryverbugsbutterfliesandalliecats.wordpress.com/ . I watched a movie last night with my daughter that I thought you might want to review – Little Giants. 🙂 Have a great day!
That’s so great you started a blog, I will check it out.
I really love this blog, it points out things which I don’t always notice in the media and entertainment.
From curiosity I’ve searched for posts concerning ponies, and I see you’ve described previous, stereotypying generations.
Are you going to write an article about new ponies and the whole brony phenomenon? In G4 the toys are still pinkish and shallow but the animation produced by Lauren Faust is just awesome.
Yes, I want to write about the Brony thing. Interesting about Faust. Any other thoughts?
Concerning ponies? Well, I may only give a few links tackling this issue 🙂
1) fresh opinion about bronies from Lauren Faust taken from her deviantart account: http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-M2E7mFY4K4U/TzGnbOU6MII/AAAAAAAAeAs/33qgjXMkdMQ/s1600/1.PNG
2) interesting article: http://stormingtheivorytower.blogspot.com/2012/01/my-little-feminist-cartoons-are-magic.html
3) Faust’s rebbutal to an attack on the series: http://msmagazine.com/blog/blog/2010/12/24/my-little-non-homophobic-non-racist-non-smart-shaming-pony-a-rebuttal/
4) Exclusive Season 1 Retrospective Interview with Lauren Faust on Equestria Daily: http://www.equestriadaily.com/2011/09/exclusive-season-1-retrospective.html
and if you want some more information I think that admins from Equestria Daily (http://www.equestriadaily.com/) may be helpful.
and I’d like to add that I’m a girl fan of new MLP, and there is a term “pegasister” for it (pegasus and sister) but I prefer a “brony” term (and many more girls from the fandom). It just sounds cooler. ; ) So I think that “brony” is a collective term for female and male fans, but media mostly emphasise “sudden grown men’s obssession over ponies oh no they must be an unemployed pedophiles that is not normal” thing.
Great, thanks Kate
Hi. I am just reading a review of a book, Tuesday’s at the Castle by Jessica Day George and looks fantastic!! Please let me know if you have read it, or know anything else about it.
Havent heard of it, will add it to my list
I love reading your posts. They are so insightful. I put this blog down on a blog award list because I like it so much. Thanks for all the work you’ve done and continue to do!
Thank you so much!
I am so happy to have found your site! My blog, Yo Mama, has very similar aims! I plan to link to your blog, and look forward to reading it!
happy to find you as well! Will check out your blog. Thanks for the link.
Tell the AIBA: Don’t force female Olympic boxers to compete in miniskirts
Sign the Petition
Here is the link:
Women’s boxing will make its debut at this year’s Olympic Games in London — a huge victory for female boxers who have fought for years to be taken seriously. But now it seems their participation will come with an outrageous catch: female boxers might be required to wear miniskirts in the ring.
The Amateur International Boxing Association (AIBA) is reportedly considering the new dress code because it thinks skirts will make the female athletes look “elegant” and help “distinguish” them from their male counterparts.
Elizabeth Plank, an amateur boxer based in London, is petitioning the AIBA to abandon the miniskirt regulation. Click here to sign Elizabeth’s petition right now.
Elizabeth says, “The idea that female boxers should be made to wear skirts reduces these skilled athletes to sex objects. It undermines the respect they have long fought for.” Worse, competing in unfamiliar clothing could even negatively impact the boxers’ performances.
And Elizabeth isn’t the only boxer speaking out against the proposed dress code. When asked about the policy, three-time world champion Katie Taylor says, “I don’t even wear miniskirts on a night out, so I definitely won’t be wearing miniskirts in the ring.”
Fortunately, the AIBA will be considering public opinion and feedback from the boxing world before making its final decision next week. That means if enough people sign Elizabeth’s petition, you can force the AIBA to abandon the proposed dress code for good.
Again, here is the link: http://www.change.org/petitions/tell-aiba-play-fair-dont-ask-female-boxers-to-wear-skirts
Thank you so much for your blog!
I will sign this petition. I know about it.
I left a message on Facebook on you. If you might be interested in being part of a panel of MA writers during our Literary Festival in February let me know. Check your messages on FB for more details. Nice to see you and your family!
I really like your blog! great idea and much needed I think 🙂
Love this idea! I watch a wide range of movies with my daughter (she is 6 now) without regard to a lot of ratings because they are so out of touch with my priorities for her and her interests. It is tough to raise empowered girls without running into walls and bumps – thank you for putting this out there!
If you are looking for real media ratings for your children, go to commonsense.org I’m not finding any value here; only spotlighting the fact that some cartoon characters have penises.
Now that I’ve seen your pic I know why you cry and whine about nothing.
There’s a rational post for you. I think Dan’s ovulating.
From the picture at the top of the page it looks like you follow gender stereotypes as well. That of mother and being female. It’s scientifically proven that women are nurturers, and therefore they fill the “mother” role better than men because they are programed to do so. Some gender stereotyping is bad, but there is a great deal of it that comes from scientific reasoning and from nature. Don’t mess with nature, it bites back…hard.
just discovered your site today and am loving it. have signed up for your posts. I have no kids, but an almost 9-year old niece and 5 year old nephew whom i am close to. love seeing how kids develop, but want them all to have a good range of role models. Am trying to launch a women’s role models project website and will be keeping in touch with your site!
Your site sounds great. Keep us posted.
Would you be interested in spreading your writings in your own Android application (for free)?
If so, please contact me,
Um, what is that?
I read a book series with my sons, called Maximum Ride. It’s not a movie–yet, but it’s supposed to be a movie by 2013, with a male producer and female director: http://www.squidoo.com/maximum-ride-movie
The books involve a group of young kids who have been genetically experimented on, and who have bird wings. Their leader is a female, even though two of the other kids in the group are her age and male. The blind boy her age is the cook, (and one of the explosive experts) and the girl who’s a bit younger than her is the computer hacker.
Sadly, we went to buy it at our local progressive-minded bookstore, because my son wanted to get it for a friend’s birthday because he thought she’d like it… and the store clerk questioned whether a girl would like it because it was “kind of a boy’s book” because it was an action/adventure story. (sigh)
I’m sure they’re getting a lot of input from the many fans of the book, wouldn’t it be nice if we could nudge them (no pun intended for those who know what I mean) into a GGG rating?
I actually think some of this is over the top! I am a pediatrician and mother of two daughters. They are very independent, free spirits. But I don’t care for them to grow up to be on an equal basis with men in a man’s world; who wants to live in a man’s world, showing how great and tough you are. I want them to grow up being happy, compassionate people, who know how to love and be loved, have a family, and follow passions. My 7-year old seems to go about tackling her interests without me or anyone having to go on rampages on what is out there in the world! Be happy for what is there! Rampages against the world do not lead to a happy place!
Sorry, don’t understand your point? I’m all for independent, free spirits who are happy, compassionate, and know how to love and be loved, have a family, and follow passions– boys and girls alike. Asking Hollywood to stop resticting boys and girls to limited gender roles.
Thanks for visiting ReelGrl.
I didn’t know where to put this, but I wanted to suggest a film to you. MirrorMask is not particularly well known, but it is probably my favorite movie for many reasons, not least of which is the existence of a very strong, brave young female protagonist. It may be a little too creepy for young children (it is reminiscent of Coraline) but I feel it would be a great movie for you to review for your readers.
Just found you via the crosspost on MsMag…EXC! Looks like we share plenty of mutual friends, focus, and femme forward analysis. Ping me if you ever want to guest post or crosspost on Shaping Youth…we’re in the process of expanding and I could use some back up!
Hi, I just started checking out your website & I think its really cool! I have a 3 month old baby girl, she is my first child. What do you think about the baby einstein dvds? My neice always liked them a lot & I think they are pretty good but just was wondering your opinion. Also I was laughing about the comments about baby girls who dont have hair & parents who out bows etc on their head. My daughter doesnt have any hair yet & I love her cute soft head, lol.
really interesting article about Disney movies and the pulling by execs! Just read about you in the Chronicle. I’d love to share with you information about my dvd series Adina’s Deck, for you to review. It looks like it would be up your ally!
What a great mind and authentic voice. I really appreciated many of your recent posts and would love to interview you about your interest in your reel girls blog and rating media for kids. As the mother of four myself, the challenge is increasingly daunting. I write and teach about love, relationships, healthy intimacy and have a radio show on LA talk radio every weds. Let me know if you could pick out a noon hour to share your ideas.
Mother of four, wow!
Sorry for the delayed reply, I am just back from traveling.
I would love to be a guest on your radio show. Thank you for the invite. I could do 10/25.
Just read your blog on SFGate for the first time and just signed up on your site. Great Work!!!! I always get the chills when I go to Toys R Us/Babies R Us and other stores catering to kids. Even toy stores — they are so based on sexual stereotypes. Stuff for boys here, stuff for girls there – it’s nauseating! Most folks know the sex of their babies these days before the baby is born. I stay away from the blues/pinks and go for yellows/greens even if I know what gender the baby is going to be. My REAL PET PEEVE is when girls are young and don’t have much hair and the parents put a bow in her hair or some other such thing to make sure everyone knows she’s a girl. That for some reason makes me crazy!
Glad to hear you were able to give birth vaginally after your C-section. My sister-in-law’s first baby was a C-section and then she delivered the next 3 vaginally — it can be done.
I disagree a bit with you regarding rap music. I was in the Virgin Mega Store in SF years ago and had to leave because I was so tired and irritated by the word “bitch” being used continuously in the rap songs being played over the speakers in the store. I just couldn’t relax enough to think about what music I wanted to buy.
It’s so nice to see an out-there feminist blog. When I taught an Intro to Women’s Studies class in the ’80s, so many women were for equal pay, pro-choice, etc but weren’t the F-word, feminist. Sorry — I got a little carried away — didn’t mean to write so much.
Thanks so much for joining ReelGirl. The bald baby hair-dos drive me crazy too! I agree that the lyrics in rap music (and a lot of music) can be horrfying. I just think it’s hypocritical when critics only focus on hip-hop and generalize about it.
I had a wonderful experience at the Woodhull Institute for Ethical Leadership a few years back. I’m not sure if we’ve met but I’ve been working for years in different capacities with GirlSource (rt now as Interim Executive Director). I’ve also worked with Feminist.com and write for the blog loveisntenough.com (aka anti-racist parent).
I’m also the co-founder and editor of Adiosbarbie.com. I am creating a youth section and would love to discuss cross-pollinating in some way. Would you be available to chat offline about ways we may collaborate?
Hi – I too found you on SFGate. Love the feminist reviews of media — sounds like we think along similar lines! (In our house, Goodnight Gorilla is female – no silverback, she.)
A few kids’ shows you might take a look at: Martha Speaks — sure, she’s a dog, but there are a number of female roles and it seems to be pretty evenhanded. Ditto Word Girl. We also like SuperWhy — yes, the lead is male, but the two girls have strong roles. One is a princess (sigh), but at least she’s not the standard-issue useless type of princess.
W/r/t Rainbow Magic, they are a hit in our house (nearly 5yo girl + 3yo boy, who love to play “Rachel and Kirsty”), so there are boys who like them – but I agree, the fairies and girls are so passive and fearful of the goblins! (BTW, there are definitely several fairies of color – check out the Jewel and Pet Fairies.) And the lookism is also a minus; when I read them aloud, I edit out most of the appearance comments, but as the kids get older, there will be a lot of editorializing about how looks and character don’t automatically match. One positive is that the goblins always fail because they are selfish and don’t work together as a team. (D’oh – foiled again!)
Anyway, enjoyed the posts so thought I’d let you know.
I absolutely love your ReelGirl blog and your blog on SF Gate. I am so glad they picked you up because that’s how I discovered your writing. I am always looking to live my life away from gender stereotypes. So I am always looking for support and encouragement to ignore and critically interpret the cultural barrage of women subordination and you help provide that.
Anyway, what do you think of Emily the Strange? And Hello Kitty? Emily the Strange purports to be an example of female empowerment, she was created by a man. She usually does not care about what others think, can be antisocial, and sometimes tends (annoyingly) to the cute side of femaleness – seems like the guy’s fantasy in those cases. …Hello Kitty – I don’t really get – except for some insight from Asian Pop columnist Jeff Yang’s explanation about post-war cutesy Japan as marketing to change it’s evil WWII image. Still, Hello Kitty is popular even now with adult women – huh?
Thanks and please keep writing!
Thanks for your comment.
I love Emily the Strange! My husband thinks she looks like me– maybe that gives some weight to the guys’ fantsay theory, ha. But I don’t think she’s for kids– she’s too strange.
Hello Kitty is, at least, often action oriented. She does do stuff in her many pictures– rides bikes, skis, climbs trees– as opposed to gazing at herself in the mirror brushing her hair as Barbie and the princesses are often shown. But even so, its always like her photo is being snapped while she’s frozen there, just smiling withth her enormous head. My six year old loves her.
Thanks so much for reading the blogs.
I just love your site and reference it frequently for my business! Great work on here!
Melissa/Margot: Look at the top right of the blog. You’ll see “RSS Posts,” which is precisely what you are looking for. It allows you to “subscribe” to every entry as they come in. Most people use this process. You’ll need a “reader” — like Google Reader” — or something that will collect all the subscription (and any other blogs you want to follow that way), but that’s pretty easy. Then you just open up your “reader” and there are the latest entries…and generally the ones you’ve not yet read are ‘bold’ (whereas those you have read no longer are). Hope this helps.
Thanks for your help. I am slowly catching on. I wish I had more time to just figure this stuff out.
Nice page, keep it up 🙂
Looks like I great site… look forward to your thoughts on more children’s shows. I always look for this type of resource with the kids. Esp. with new movies. Can’t wait to read more.
Thanks for reaching out to me. Have another bookmark! 😉
Is there a way to sign up for automatic emails whenever you update or post new?
There is a way..but I have yet to discover it. I will keep you posted!
I added a blog widget on the front page, right side, to subscribe.